Start Your Day by Focusing on Gratitude and Positivity (DAY #24 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Gratitude is an underrated virtue. Feeling thankful for the wonderful things in your life can do a lot to improve your mood and your view of yourself. It’s easy to forget all the blessings in our lives when things get difficult or when our inner naysayer is being particularly loud. Taking time to remember the good things can bring an entirely new and positive perspective to a negative situation. Starting your day by focusing on gratitude and positivity is a practice that can have a tremendous effect on every aspect of your day.

Gratitude is an underrated virtue. Feeling thankful for the wonderful things in your life can do a lot to improve your mood and your view of yourself. It’s easy to forget all the blessings in our lives when things get difficult or when our inner naysayer is being particularly loud. Taking time to remember the good things can bring an entirely new and positive perspective to a negative situation. Starting your day by focusing on gratitude and positivity is a practice that can have a tremendous effect on every aspect of your day.

Giving thanks can get you started on the right foot. You’ll leave the house feeling more optimistic and content than you would otherwise. That feeling can last throughout the day, and it can also serve to insulate you from any stress or obstacles you encounter in your regular routine. Let’s consider some easy ways to get started each day with a practice of gratitude and positivity.

Start a Journal

A gratitude journal is one of the easiest ways to keep your blessings at hand. Start your day by writing down three to five things you’re grateful for in your life. You can expand upon that and write details about each, if you choose. This simple act starts your day on a positive note. You can also look back at past entries any time you need a pick-me-up about just how great your life is.

Repeat Affirmations

Affirmations are concise, positive sentences. Usually, they’re personal statements about yourself and your life. Affirmations are meant as a reminder of your gifts and abilities. They’re an awesome tool for reminding yourself just how wonderful you are as a person. You can really boost your self-confidence with this effective practice. Create an affirmation and repeat it out loud several times. Soon, you’ll absorb the message and carry it with you as you go about your day.

Reflect on Your Blessings

Sometimes, just sitting in quiet contemplation to reflect on your blessings can be enough. This type of meditation focuses your thoughts and grounds you in mindfulness. It’s a way of centering yourself and purposefully beginning your day with gratitude and positivity. Sitting with a cup of tea in a quiet place is sufficient, or you can choose a more formal meditation position of sitting on a pillow placed upon the floor. It doesn’t matter, as long as you have privacy and can be alone with your thoughts.

Keep these techniques in mind if you’re looking for a way to begin each morning with purpose and to guide your day in gratitude. You’ll notice a shift in your attitude and in the ways in which you manage obstacles you encounter. Problems won’t seem as significant when you create a morning ritual such as this.

See you back here tomorrow where I will be talking about failure and mistakes and how they are a key component to your success!

XOXO,

Ashley

It’s Ok to Ask for Help in Defusing Your Inner Naysayer (DAY #23 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Shutting up that inner critic can be hard. You’ve learned some great strategies so far on our journey together. However, these tactics are all things you must do on your own. Sometimes, pushing past your negative self-talk requires some help. Seeking assistance from an outside source doesn’t make you weak. In fact, you’ll probably find it strengthens you and possibly even some of your relationships, too.

Hi Beautiful! 🙂

Shutting up that inner critic can be hard. You’ve learned some great strategies so far on our journey together. However, these tactics are all things you must do on your own. Sometimes, pushing past your negative self-talk requires some help. Seeking assistance from an outside source doesn’t make you weak. In fact, you’ll probably find it strengthens you and possibly even some of your relationships, too.

We don’t always see ourselves as others see us. It’s particularly easy to overlook our positive qualities. When your inner critic is bombarding you with negative messages, it may take an outside perspective to help you see the reality of a situation. You might not be able to get the push you need on your own. There’s no shame in asking for help.

There are lots of ways to look outside yourself when it comes to shutting down your inner critic. Take a look below for some strategies. It’s important to understand that it’s okay to ask for help in defusing your inner naysayer.

Consult a Trusted Friend

Reach out to friends or even family that you trust. Those who know you best can offer you honest feedback when you’re feeling unsure about things. Ask someone who will be honest, yet sensitive, in their approach. This way, you’ll be sure they’re not just trying to be nice. These types of folks can provide you with a realistic view of you and your situation, helping you to make an informed decision about your next steps.

Seek Therapy

Your inner critic has probably been around your whole life. There are a number of complex reasons for our negative self-talk. Sometimes working through these issues requires the help of a professional. Seeking therapy is a great way to start to see for yourself what is real and what has been falsely ingrained throughout your life. When you begin to work through these deep-seated issues, you start to heal and to see your own value.

Do Some Reading

If you truly aren’t ready to talk to others about your self-criticism, it’s okay. A good place to start is by researching the issues you’re facing. For example, if you’re regularly telling yourself that you can’t achieve great things or that you’re not enough, do some research on self-confidence. Read books and blog posts that can show you how to gain more of it. If your internal messages tell you it’s not safe to trust others, read up on the topic of building trust. You get the idea. Take note of any patterns coming from your inner naysayer and then search for resources to help you defeat them.

These tips should help you find help overcoming your inner critic. Sometimes it’s not possible to work through these negative messages on your own. It’s perfectly acceptable to look for help.

Join me in the HB SQUAD group where a community of ladies are waiting to support you on your journey toward self-love and manifesting the life you desire! See you in the group and meet me back here tomorrow to talk about gratitude.

What You May Be Missing if You Listen to That Inner Naysayer (DAY #20 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discovered that your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you from something with its negative messages. Sometimes this presents itself as your intuition or gut protecting you from real harm, and you should learn to identify this voice and listen to it. Most often, however, your inner critic is acting in a defensive way to keep your ego from getting bruised. It can truly hold you back from having some great experiences. That’s when you really want to employ strategies to manage that nagging voice.

We’ve discovered that your inner naysayer is usually trying to protect you from something with its negative messages. Sometimes this presents itself as your intuition or gut protecting you from real harm, and you should learn to identify this voice and listen to it. Most often, however, your inner critic is acting in a defensive way to keep your ego from getting bruised. It can truly hold you back from having some great experiences. That’s when you really want to employ strategies to manage that nagging voice.

You’ve learned a number of ways to recognize and deal with your negative self-talk. Today, we’ll cover one more. Examining the things this inner dialogue is keeping you from can push you forward and help you to overcome the damaging effects of that little voice. Take a look below to learn how you can focus on what you may be missing when you listen to your inner naysayer. Once you know what’s at stake, you’ll be more apt to take positive actions that can lead to tremendous personal reward.

What You’re Protecting

When you give in to your inner naysayer, you are protecting yourself from a number of things. You can avoid hurt or embarrassment if you decide not to try something new. Avoiding risks rewards you with a feeling of safety. You protect yourself from rejection, failure, or vulnerability. It’s very tempting to give into your inner critic. It can feel much safer to simply not try than to put yourself out there. It’s self-protection.

What You’re Missing

Listening to that inner critic can feel like such a relief. It takes the pressure off and saves you from trying something hard. However, it can also keep you from experiencing something great. It also often leaves you with the regret of what could have been. Instead, learning to recognize and push past your inner naysayer can bring you rewards beyond your imagination. Think of the friendships, romances, career successes, passions, and novelties you can experience if you silence that critic and do the thing.

What You Have to Gain

You have so many amazing things to gain by ignoring your inner naysayer. Beyond the wonderful experiences, you’ll gain confidence and self-esteem. The more you practice ignoring your negative self-talk, the easier it will become. You’ll soon notice you have the confidence to try more things because you’ve learned that you can do it and the world doesn’t end. You’ll have more fun, meet more people, try new things, and just feel better about yourself when you learn to overcome that inner naysayer.

Keep these tips in mind the next time self-doubt tries to hold you back. Do it, anyway. Then, see how good you feel. 🙂 Tomorrow, I will be talking about what being brave really means. If you would like more inspiration and support, visit HBSQUAD.com. See you on the inside!

XOXO,

Ashley

Practice Mindfulness to Feel Better About Yourself (DAY #19 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

You may have heard of the practice of mindfulness. It’s become all the rage in new age philosophy. And for good reason. This simple concept can deliver powerful results. Mindfulness is really just being aware of yourself and your emotions in the present moment. It involves bringing your thoughts back to the present when they begin to wander, much like meditation

Hi Beautiful!

You may have heard of the practice of mindfulness. It’s become all the rage in new age philosophy. And for good reason. This simple concept can deliver powerful results. Mindfulness is really just being aware of yourself and your emotions in the present moment. It involves bringing your thoughts back to the present when they begin to wander, much like meditation.

Mindfulness is knowing where your attention lies. You can use this concept when you discover that your inner naysayer is sending you negative messages. You’ve learned some strategies for recognizing this inner critic. One other way to overcome it is to use mindfulness to manage these thoughts once you recognize them.

Countering your own negative self-talk immediately in the moment with mindfulness is an effective way to deal with it. By managing these messages, you’ll gradually increase your self-esteem. Read on to discover some ways to use mindfulness to feel better about yourself.

Use Visualization

Visualization is a way of helping to make your positive thoughts a reality. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, counter them with a vision of things going well. Try to include details in that vision, such as what you’re wearing, your surroundings, and even how you feel. Doing this practice routinely has been shown to actually rewire your brain to act as though your vision were actually happening. Over time, you’ll begin to gain the self-confidence you have in your vision.

Examine Your Thoughts

Actually taking time in the moment to examine and counter your negative thoughts is a powerful act of mindfulness. Ask yourself questions about the negative self-talk you just heard. Analyze it. Try to discover its roots or meanings. Getting to the bottom of these messages and their resulting feelings as they’re happening can help you to give them the boot and replace them with kinder thoughts.

Take Risks

Being mindful can also mean being proactive in your actions. Deciding in the moment to try something new or push past your fear to take a risk is a fantastic way to feel more secure in your abilities. You’ll gain lots of strides the more you practice taking risks, so give it a shot today. Feel free to start small and increase your reach over time.

Acknowledge What You’re Doing Right

Counter your thoughts about what an awful person you are or what you’re doing wrong with an acknowledgement of what you’re doing right. There’s always something good about yourself you can note if you dig deep. This will get easier with time, so don’t feel like you have to immediately heap tons of praise upon yourself. Try just taking note of one small thing you’ve done right today to offset the self-critical thought you’re having. Then, see how much lighter your mood feels.

Give these tricks a try when you find yourself succumbing to your inner naysayer. Using mindfulness practices can be a very effective way to overcome your inner naysayer and feel better about yourself.

Join us at HBSQUAD.com for accountability and support and tomorrow you will learn all that you will be missing if you listen to your inner naysayer.

XOXO,

Ashley

Simple Journaling Idea – Focus on What You Did Well Today (DAY #16 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Journaling is an activity that can benefit you in so many ways, and there are many different kinds of journals you can keep. This is an underrated ritual that can truly help you toward increasing your self-love. One simple journaling idea is to just focus on what you did well each day. It involves finding one thing that you did or accomplished that made you feel good. This one little act can have surprising results. Continue reading to discover more about journaling and how this practice can enhance the amount of self-love you feel.

Journaling is an activity that can benefit you in so many ways, and there are many different kinds of journals you can keep. This is an underrated ritual that can truly help you toward increasing your self-love. One simple journaling idea is to just focus on what you did well each day. It involves finding one thing that you did or accomplished that made you feel good. This one little act can have surprising results. Continue reading to discover more about journaling and how this practice can enhance the amount of self-love you feel.

About Journaling

Journaling is pretty much what it sounds like. It involves writing your thoughts in a dedicated place on a regular basis. This can be in a traditional paper journal or you can choose a digital format. Your journal doesn’t have to be fancy. It can be a simple college-ruled notebook or the notes app on your phone. If you want to make it more personal or detailed, choose a beautifully bound leather journal or an app with lots of features dedicated to the practice of journaling. What matters is that you use it on a regular basis to help process your thoughts in some way. You can free write, jot down what you’re grateful for, or follow writing prompts. There are countless ways to use your journal.

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Benefits of Journaling

The benefits of journaling are numerous. Keeping a journal can help you to gather your thoughts and make sense of your feelings. It can help you to note patterns in your life, helping you to make change. Writing in your journal can be cathartic and help you to heal past traumas. It can improve your emotional intelligence and relationships by helping you get in touch with and make sense of your feelings. Journaling can create a sense of mindfulness, focusing you on the here and now. It can also spark your creativity by providing you with an outlet for your thoughts, feelings, and moods.

Why Journal Your Accomplishments?

Taking the time at the end of each day to journal just one good thing you did that day can be an empowering exercise. As you already know, it can be so easy to give into that naysayer and listen to the negative messages in your mind. You forget about your positive qualities and what you do well. Even the smallest thing can count. Writing down these accomplishments boosts your self-esteem. It also gives you written validation to return to on the days you’re feeling down or defeated. Just look back through these journal entries to see all the ways you’ve been successful, and you’ll see just how capable you are and that you will succeed in the future. Hopefully, you now see how such a simple journaling technique can make a big difference when it comes to changing a negative mindset. Give it a try and see how it works for you.

Stay tuned for tomorrow’s blog on reframing negative self-talk and join me in at HBSQUAD.com for more great ways to grow as the amazing woman that you are.

XOXO,

Ashley

The Power of Positive Pep Talks (DAY #15 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

We’ve discussed your inner naysayer and how to manage it. That little voice inside your head tries to protect you by telling you negative things. Sometimes, it’s possible that it could be your intuition keeping you safe. Often, it’s merely a defense mechanism holding you back from bigger things. One of the best and most positive ways to drown out your inner critic, overcome fear, and move forward in your life is to reframe those negative messages into more positive and realistic ones. There’s nothing like the power of pep talks to help give you the confidence you need to embrace self-love. Read on to learn how these affirmations work and why you should be giving yourself pep talks on a regular basis.

We’ve discussed your inner naysayer and how to manage it. That little voice inside your head tries to protect you by telling you negative things. Sometimes, it’s possible that it could be your intuition keeping you safe. Often, it’s merely a defense mechanism holding you back from bigger things. One of the best and most positive ways to drown out your inner critic, overcome fear, and move forward in your life is to reframe those negative messages into more positive and realistic ones. There’s nothing like the power of pep talks to help give you the confidence you need to embrace self-love. Read on to learn how these affirmations work and why you should be giving yourself pep talks on a regular basis.

Benefits of Pep Talks

Positive pep talks can totally turn a bad day around or help to give you confidence to pursue something that’s intimidating. They can help you to see yourself in a different light and improve your mood. By reframing your negative thinking, you’re breaking a pattern that leads to stagnation and negativity. Instead of failing to venture forward, take a chance, or try something new, giving yourself a pep talk can help to remind yourself that you’re a worthwhile person who is capable of great things. Positive self-talk can interrupt a damaging cycle of self-defeating thinking to help you push past negative emotions like fear and insecurity.

How They Work

There are lots of ways you can give yourself a positive pep talk. They don’t have to be grandiose gestures, either. If you’re uncomfortable with heaping praise on yourself, something as simple as writing a list of your positive qualities can help immensely. This is also a good way to gain confidence and momentum toward learning to give yourself bigger pep talks. Some people might actually like the idea of giving themselves a proper pep talk in front of a mirror, looking at their reflection and talking to it as they would a good friend. This is an excellent option. If you’re in a public place and need a pick-me-up, taking a moment to silently remind yourself of your positive qualities and abilities can be a fine way of pushing past your inner naysayer.

Pep Talks and Self-Love

The very act of giving yourself a pep talk is an act of self-love. It’s purposefully taking time to focus on your worth and to say positive things about yourself. It helps boost confidence. Pep talks serve as a reminder of all the good things you have to offer. The better you become at boosting yourself up when things get tough or when the negative self-talk is too much, the easier it will become. Before long, you’ll notice that you automatically feel worthy and confident enough in yourself to manage the negative messages that come your way.

Give it a try. Practice giving yourself positive pep talks to see what a difference it makes in your life and how it impacts the self-love you’re able to express. WATCH MY VIDEO WITH 25 SUCCESS AFFIRMATIONS for ideas on affirmations you can say to yourself to reprogram your mindset.

Each week we have amazing women going live at HBSQUAD.COM to help you with your mindset, pursuing your passion and helping you create the life you desire. Join us over there and grab a pen and paper because tomorrow we are talking about journaling your way to self-love.

XOXO,

Ashley

How Self-Love Can Reduce Stress and Anxiety (DAY #14 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Stress and anxiety go hand in hand. When you feel stressed or anxious, your physical and mental wellbeing can suffer. You’re not living your best quality of life if you experience these things on a regular basis. Learning to love yourself can help to greatly reduce feelings of overwhelm. Understanding how these emotions manifest in the body and the ways that self-love can combat them can help you to begin the work toward valuing yourself more on your way to feeling better. Take a look below to learn how self-love can reduce stress and anxiety.

Hi Beautiful!

We are officially two weeks in and I am so excited about today’s topic. Yesterday, I talked about how to become aware when you inner naysayer pops up and today I am going to share with you how self -love can reduce stress and anxiety.

Stress and anxiety go hand in hand. When you feel stressed or anxious, your physical and mental wellbeing can suffer. You’re not living your best quality of life if you experience these things on a regular basis. Learning to love yourself can help to greatly reduce feelings of overwhelm. Understanding how these emotions manifest in the body and the ways that self-love can combat them can help you to begin the work toward valuing yourself more on your way to feeling better. Take a look below to learn how self-love can reduce stress and anxiety.

About Stress and Anxiety

Stress arises due to demands that are put on your body and brain. In today’s busy world, we’re expected to do so much and have so many obligations. It’s only natural that we will experience stress. You likely experience stress quite often if you have a demanding job, family responsibilities, or a full plate of commitments. Anxiety can be the result of stress. It’s feelings of worry, fear, or dread. Sometimes these feelings are just under the surface. Other times, they can be quite severe. Stress and anxiety can lead to physical health problems as well as aggravate mental health conditions.

Why Self-Love Matters

A strong sense of self-love can help to combat stress and anxiety. When you value yourself, you take care of you. You put yourself first and prioritize your happiness. This gives you a strong foundation to make decisions that are in your best interest, rather than falling prey to things that lead to stress and anxiety. When you love yourself, you learn to set boundaries. You won’t be as apt to give into people pleasing, overscheduling, or allowing disrespect. Knowing your worth lets you take your own needs into consideration and can greatly aid in lowering the demands placed upon you from others or even your own inner naysayer.

Tips to Get Started

There are ways you can practice self-love that will help you to greatly reduce the stress and anxiety in your life. Simply taking time to remind yourself of your value is a good start. When you feel that you’re worthwhile, you’re better prepared to stand up to pressure from others or even yourself. Protect yourself from negative influences by removing toxic people from your life. Let go of folks who regularly cause you to feel bad or anxious. Listen to your internal messages. When you hear your inner naysayer pop up, take the time to examine what it’s telling you and then reframe the message in a way that’s more realistic. You’ll be better prepared to deal with any issues in a healthy and proactive way that doesn’t lead you to feeling stressed out.

Increasing your self-love can go a long way toward decreasing stress and anxiety. Give these tips a try to start feeling more in control and lowering the unnecessary demands in your life. You’ll start to notice that you feel lighter and better prepared to defend your boundaries when you develop a strong sense of who you are.

If you want to connect with women who want to support you on your journey, visit HBSQUAD.com and tomorrow we are talking how powerful pep talks can be.

XOXO,

Ashley

How to Practice Self-Love Daily(DAY #11 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

By now, you should have a fairly good idea of what self-love is and why it’s important. You know that confidence and self-awareness are essential components of loving yourself. What you might be wondering is how to start practicing self-love on a regular basis so that you can begin to internalize new messages and rid yourself of that pesky naysayer once and for all. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take to cultivate self-love on a regular basis. Take a look.

Hello Beautiful 🙂

Yesterday, we talked about how to recognize your inner naysayer when it pops up in your mind. I hope it helped you to identify the reasons why it is so important and ways for you to manage it. Self-love is needed, but oftentimes we forget to or don’t know how to practice it.

By now, you should have a fairly good idea of what self-love is and why it’s important. You know that confidence and self-awareness are essential components of loving yourself. What you might be wondering is how to start practicing self-love on a regular basis so that you can begin to internalize new messages and rid yourself of that pesky naysayer once and for all. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take to cultivate self-love on a regular basis. Take a look.

Focus on the Here and Now

Too often, we find ourselves looking at the past with longing or waiting for someday. It’s hard to love yourself and your life when you don’t appreciate what you have in the moment. Centering yourself on the present, being mindful, and practicing gratitude are quick ways to cultivate an appreciation for what you have right now.

Work on Your Goals

Setting goals that reflect your values will help you to feel you’re living a life of purpose. You’ll know you’re taking real steps toward growing as a person when you’re regularly doing things that will bring you closer to your desires. Proactively using your time rather than just absent-mindedly going with the flow and putting out fires is quite empowering.

Set Boundaries

Boundaries are an important part of self-care. Setting boundaries means you put yourself and your needs first sometimes. This is a healthy approach to life and ensures you have the energy to take care of the things that matter. Saying no to toxic relationships and unnecessary obligations will free your spirit and keep you from becoming burnt out.

Take Care of Yourself

It can be hard to take time for yourself in this busy world full of obligations. This is especially true when you’ve gotten in the habit of putting yourself last on the list. To experience true self-love, you need to start giving yourself higher priority. You can do this by eating well, exercising, taking time for a hobby, pampering yourself, or any other activity that focuses on your wellbeing.

Forgive Yourself

Most of all, you must learn to forgive yourself to truly love yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s a part of the human condition. Some of those mistakes will be serious and life altering. Allowing yourself understanding and care regarding those things will show you that you’re still worthy despite your faults. This is a crucial lesson on the road to embracing self-love.

These are just a handful of examples of some ways you can easily begin the practice of self-love. If even this many strategies seems overwhelming, feel free to begin trying just a couple. This is a process that takes time, effort, and practice.

If you would like a community to help keep you accountable on your journey to becoming a better you everyday, then head on over to the #HBSquad Group. Tomorrow, we are going to be talking about how to practice self-love without adapting the traits of a narcissist. See you then!

XOXO,

Ashley

SHould you listen to or ignore your inner naysayer? (DAY #9 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

No matter how much you’ve internalized the concept of self-love, you probably still have an inner naysayer nagging at you. That inner voice that is constantly giving us messages is there for nearly everyone. Your inner naysayer can often be quite a pest, telling you all sorts of negative things that hurt your self-esteem and make you second-guess yourself.

We are almost 10 days in which means we are almost 1/3 done this series and I hope you are learning a lot about yourself and are focusing on growing as a woman as each day passes. Yesterday, I talked about how important it is to realize that YOU ARE NOT A LABEL. Today, I am going to begin the conversation around that negative little voice in your head and whether or not you should be listening…

No matter how much you’ve internalized the concept of self-love, you probably still have an inner naysayer nagging at you. That inner voice that is constantly giving us messages is there for nearly everyone. Your inner naysayer can often be quite a pest, telling you all sorts of negative things that hurt your self-esteem and make you second-guess yourself. But sometimes that voice can be useful. Let’s take a look at when you should listen to your inner naysayer and when you should ignore it.

About Your Inner Naysayer

Your inner naysayer can be due to a lot of different things. Regardless of its purpose, it’s your inner voice that is trying to tell you something or guide you. The name “naysayer” implies negativity. Therefore, the things this voice has to say are usually negative in nature. Each person’s inner naysayer is unique. The messages they give are based upon your own individual life experience and personality. Your inner naysayer is trying to protect you in most cases, even if that protection ends up hindering you or limiting you in some way.

When to Listen

Sometimes you should take heed when you hear your inner naysayer giving you a message. In order to know whether the message is helpful or not, it’s important to take time to dissect it. Ask yourself some questions. Is it realistic? Is it helpful? Is it true? If the answer to these questions is yes, you should listen. For example, you may want to go on a date with someone new, but you keep having nagging thoughts telling you to stay home. Sit quietly and think about the reasons your inner voice is telling you not to go out with this person. If you see red flags or feel this person isn’t being truthful, listen to your gut. It’s there to protect you physically and emotionally.

When Not to Listen

Often times, we let negative messages that others have given us stick with us through life. We may internalize them as our own and adopt them as self-defeating beliefs. Let’s explore the above date scenario further. Your inner naysayer is telling you not to go out with your potential date. Why is it saying that? If it’s because you’re not attractive enough or smart enough for them, that’s likely insecurity talking. Go on the date and give it a shot. Don’t let your insecurities win out.

Your inner naysayer is usually there to protect you. Perhaps it’s acting as a defense mechanism and repeating insecurities you’ve internalized about yourself. Maybe it’s a warning from your gut reminding you to heed red flags. Take time to listen to your inner naysayer before deciding how to act. You’ll know whether to give in or not.

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The Connection Between Self-Love & Confidence (DAY #7 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

In yesterday’s post, I discussed ways that obtaining a sense of purpose can lead to greater confidence. Understanding your priorities and what matters most to you in life can help you to feel more secure in yourself. Confidence is an important component of self-love. If you don’t believe in yourself and your worth, it’s hard to love yourself. That’s why I’d like to explore the connection between self-love and confidence in today’s post.

In yesterday’s post, I discussed ways that obtaining a sense of purpose can lead to greater confidence. Understanding your priorities and what matters most to you in life can help you to feel more secure in yourself. Confidence is an important component of self-love. If you don’t believe in yourself and your worth, it’s hard to love yourself. That’s why I’d like to explore the connection between self-love and confidence in today’s post.

About Self-Love

Self-love, as we’ve discussed, is having positive regard for yourself. It’s being able to put yourself first and feeling that you deserve just as much compassion as the people you care about. Self-love is the belief that your own happiness can take priority and that you aren’t selfish for taking care of you. Taking care of your own needs and refusing to settle for less than you deserve is also part of self-love. You aren’t a narcissist, and you aren’t self-centered for loving yourself. Just the opposite, in fact. Having positive self-regard is healthy and essential for being an emotionally intelligent person.

About Confidence

Confidence is simply believing in yourself. It’s the understanding that you are a capable human being and that you can manage regular daily occurrences or challenges you encounter. It also involves transferring those beliefs into actions that reflect how you feel and demonstrate your capabilities. You don’t want to overestimate your abilities however, as this could cause you to come across as arrogant or could affect the quality of your work.

The Self-Love/Confidence Connection

Self-love and confidence are definitely connected. There is likely a circular relationship between them. When you love yourself and have positive self-regard, you’re more likely to be confident. That’s because you have a healthy view of yourself and honestly feel you possess value. When you feel worthwhile, why wouldn’t you have faith in your abilities? You know you’re a person worthy of care and deserving of good things. You should be confident you can achieve such things. Likewise, when you’re confident, you are demonstrating your positive regard for yourself. You are confident in the belief that you’re capable of achieving the things you desire because you also feel you are worthy. These two concepts are closely tied together.

As you can see, confidence plays a strong role in self-love. In fact, they’re both closely related. That’s why it’s important to build your confidence regularly in order to strengthen your feelings of worthiness.

Join a group of women who want to support you on your journey at http://www.hbsquad.com and don’t miss tomorrow where I will talk about the destructive nature of labels in our lives.

XOXO,

Ashley