Clarity of purpose Breeds Confidence (DAY #6 OF STOP YOUR INNER NAYSAYER WITH SELF LOVE SERIES)

Having a strong sense of self is imperative to loving yourself. As noted in yesterday’s post, self-awareness helps you to better understand yourself and what drives your behavior. This understanding helps you to be more compassionate with yourself when times are tough. Similarly, having a strong sense of purpose can help to solidify your self-love.

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If you missed yesterday’s post, I gave you the deets on how being more self-aware can help you feel better about yourself. Today, you will learn how having a clearly defined purpose can be a huge confidence booster.

Having a strong sense of self is imperative to loving yourself. As noted in yesterday’s post, self-awareness helps you to better understand yourself and what drives your behavior. This understanding helps you to be more compassionate with yourself when times are tough. Similarly, having a strong sense of purpose can help to solidify your self-love. When you know what you want to do with your life, it’s easier to recognize your own value and to feel more love for yourself. Getting clear about your purpose can help boost your confidence. Read on to learn how it works. 

What is Purpose?

Purpose can have a wide array of definitions. For this post, consider your purpose to be your “why.” For example, why do you do what you do? What is the underlying motivation you have for working, playing, relating to others, etc.? If you don’t know the answer to this, it’s time to start giving it some thought. Take notes on these questions and look for patterns of what drives you. Knowing your strongest motivation or purpose in life is important to a number of things, including your success, happiness, and self-confidence.

The Connection Between Purpose and Confidence

When you understand what’s most important to you in life, you can then take proactive actions based on those priorities. Living in accordance with your purpose will lead you to feel better about yourself because you know you’re making decisions that are in line with your values and that you’re making strides toward doing the things that will help you to reach your goals. When you have purpose in your life, you have taken steps to declare what’s important to you and what matters most. That can be quite empowering, also leading to increased self-esteem. You’re living on your own terms, not ones determined by outside forces.

How to Develop Your Sense of Purpose

Developing your sense of purpose and discovering just what that is can be the tricky part. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to move that process along. Taking stock of what matters most to you and your priorities in life is a good start. As noted earlier, you can make a list of these things and look for patterns to guide your next steps. It’s also helpful to get out there and try new things. The more experiences and people you expose yourself to, the more likely you are to find something that speaks to you, aligns with your values, and influences your future decisions. If you’re not sure what you want to try, start with things that interest you or that you’ve considered trying in the past, then go from there. Keep in mind that you don’t have to settle for just one purpose. There could be multiple things that sustain your interest and push you forward each and every day.

This is just a short summary of what purpose is and how it contributes to confidence. Give the suggestions above a try and start seeking your own life’s purpose. Soon, you’ll find yourself living a life you love.

If you would like to join a group of purpose-driven women who are ready to support you on your journey, visit HBSquad.com. Tomorrow, I am showing you the powerful connection between confidence and self-love and believe me, you don’t want to miss it!

XOXO,

Ashley

[New Read] Take Your Career & Life to New Heights with DeVon Franklin’s New Book, The Hollywood Commandments (& my experience on the launch team)

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DeVon Franklin has been my “mentor in my head” for a while now as I have yet to meet him in person, but I have learned so much from him that has positively impacted my life. If you don’t know who DeVon is, you are living under a rock. He went from being an 18 year old intern for Will Smith to being an award-winning film and TV producer, New York Times best-selling author, international speaker, and spiritual success coach. Credits under his belt include producing the hit-film Miracles From Heaven which grossed over $73 million at the box office and the best selling book The Wait, in which he co-authored with his wife Meagan Good, that reveals the benefits of waiting and delayed gratification to build a true love that lasts.

One of my favorite interviews DeVon Franklin was with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday. It drew me to him because I was at a point in my life where I was just starting to become a public figure and I knew what I wanted to do, but I didn’t feel good enough. Check out the interview that changed the game for me below helped me to realize that the key to my success is the ability to “stay in my own movie”.

From that moment, DeVon’s words of inspiration and motivation became a daily push to keep me on track for what I have been called to do in my life. When the opportunity presented itself for me to be a part of the launch team of his new book, The Hollywood Commandments: A Spiritual Guide to Secular Success, I knew this would be the opportunity of a lifetime to support someone who has made such a great impact on my life.

I was ecstatic to get to read the book and start applying the principles before the book is even released. When the postman handed me the book, I ran around the house like a little child (I am 30 and sooo not afraid to admit it). The book not only exceeded my expectations, but also gave me the blueprint I need to reach the next level on my success journey.

“When you decide that following your purpose passionately is the most important thing, you break out every skill, every bit of wisdom, and every character strength at your disposal, and you go for it.”

That quote was from the introduction of the book and sets the intention for what the book is about. It is not only for those in the Entertainment industry and in Hollywood, but anybody can use the Commandments in this book to take their life and business to new heights.

Another favorite quote of mine from the book comes from the chapter titled, You Are the Talent.

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Leading up to the launch of The Hollywood Commandments on September 26, Devon has been posting videos where he shares some of the principles in the book. A couple of my favorites are below.

I have gained so much from serving on his launch team for this book and I cannot tell you enough how much I have been impacted from this experience.

If you have not pre-ordered The Hollywood Commandments, head on over to http://devonfranklin.com/the-hollywood-commandments/ to grab your copy today and if you are looking for more inspirational videos like the ones above from DeVon, be sure to follow him on social media and visit his website at www.devonfranklin.com.

I will also be doing a video discussing key points that I love about the book in the coming days and will post it on here and YouTube once I do it.

COMMENT ON THIS POST BELOW & SHARE IT ON FACEBOOK! I will be choosing two of you who help spread the word about this amazing book to receive a FREE copy of the book! 

Many Blessings,

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I Jumped — And got the girls bunnies and got peed on in the process!

Bunny 3Sooo, although I love animal pictures, watching animals from afar and even chill-axing with some animals for a minute or so, I haven’t really (besides our dog Buddy and that little turtle named Cupid) had many pets recently.

Last week, I was in an UBER good mood as I headed out to Phoenyx’s 4H Fun Day where we got to hold and pet a slew of different animals and welp, you may have guess it already but I fell in love with the bunnies. So cute. So cuddly. So well behaved. Yep, let gets one. No, lets get two. And in that moment, we added two baby rabbits to our family. After my good mood wore of, I started second-guessing my decision to get two, but it was too late. I had already paid for them and was to pick them up a week from that day (yesterday made a week) when they were ready for their new home.

We went and got them from a wonderful young lady who started raising bunnies as a 4HBunny 5project when she herself was in the program during school. We got one black one and named her Leylee (my nickname growing up) and a gray girl that we named Niomi. Well, once all three girls got home and started playing with them, I realized I had done something horribly wrong.

I had TWO bunnies and three girls, so one would always be left out. After contemplating it and my aunt saying something about it as well, we went and got another baby black bunny and named her Evie. Three bunnies for my three princesses.

After we picked up the third bunny, my Awe got kind of spoiled when all three bunnies decided to start pooping at the same time. Three girls yelling, “Help, what do we do?” at the same time. Poopy pellots were shooting out everywhere in the car. On the seats. On the floor. On their laps. Umm….Yikes. I didn’t have a solution, but to throw something under them quick. As I turned the corners to get home, the poopy pellots were rolling around everywhere in the car and just when we though the bunnies had nothing left inside of them, it started shooting out  again.

Call me naive. Call me uneducated on the bunny digestive system, but it was a little bit of a shock to me. I ran to the local pet store to get food and hay for them, but was now like maybe I should have asked them “Do they make bunny diapers??”  LOL Needless to say, the princesses are so happy to have their new friends and just in time to enjoy then on Easter (their one month birthday).

Ohh and how did I get peed on? Well, I had Leylee ( Amiyah’s Bunny) on my lap after I just took a bath and put on my brand new nightgown with coffee cups on it. Leylee was running around the couch and jumped on my belly and I felt something warm and wet and I froze. Wait one second…Did this bunny just pee all over my new gown? I stripped naked in the living room, got cleaned up and needless to say, the bunnies were put up for the night.

This is going to be an interesting journey…Stay tuned for more!